Positivity +

In my opinion positivity is essential for any chance of keeping your head above the surface in life, or for any chance of some sort of recovery when you are living with a chronic illness. Positivity has the power to move you forward, negativity will only hold you back. I try my best to stay as positive as I can because why waste energy focusing on anything else? Doing that is only going to make you feel worse and it becomes a cycle. Of course it is a lot easier said than done, I don't even want to list all the reasons why it might be so hard because that would defeat the object of this post but for every negative aspect there is almost always a positive one hidden there somewhere, it just might be harder to find it.

Positive Aspects
I've decided to share some of the positive aspects and things I feel I have gained since being a long term ill person which is obviously a negative thing with negative effects, but some good has come out of it and that's what I try and focus on. You might see me posting a positive thought every now and then in the hope that some of you out there might see it and think 'you know what I didn't see it like that, but now I do' because I know how easy it can be to let the little demon that is the life of illness get inside of you and start taking control, and once you start replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start seeing positive results.

"Few things in the world are more powerful than a positive push. A smile. A world of optimism and hope. A 'you can do it' when things are tough" 
Richard M. DeVos

Patience
So for me, something good to come out of being so unwell is how patient I have become and all because I've had no other choice. I see patience as being a skill that can only be improved through practice and just like any skill some people are naturally better at it, but the good thing is any skill can be improved upon and the more you are pushed, or the longer you are made to wait, the more patient you are going to become. Patience is a skill you will need for your whole life, and when a time comes where it needs to be put into action you're going to be so good at it you won't even realise how good at it you actually are, and when that happens the proof is all in the pudding.

Next time you are feeling down or having a hard time of things stop and think to yourself what good - even of small - has come out of the situation you are in? 


What good things can you think of to come out of your illness, or if you aren't ill - a negative situation? Tell me in the comment section :)



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17 comments

  1. Hello my friend, what an interesting post. You asked and I will answer: My doctor laughed so hard when I told her that before I got type 1 diabetes with all that it entails, I used to be a hypochondriac. Well, the diabetes cured me of that. Then I read somewhere that if you feel down, just smile and it will help. Just putting a simple smile on my face first thing in the morning and when I feel down, really, really helps. It's so darned simple that it's almost unbelievable. I highly recommend it. Smile! Patience is another story. It is something I am still working on, but I see what you are saying, having a chronic illness (and I'm not comparing mine to yours, you have it so much worse) or I should say having my chronic illness, I am sure that in order to test my blood, add my insulin, figure out the carb counts of food, making sure I have all my medical supplies, and on and on, does require some patience. But still, I feel very lacking in the patience department.

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    1. I agree 100% Inger, smiling can be so powerful. I wouldn't say Diabetes is any less worse than M.E, they are both chronic and leave us needing to be more careful with what we do in our lives, I can imagine it does test your patience, needing to constantly test your bloods and thinking about food! You must be better at it than you think :)

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  2. Great post! I like your way of finding something positive in every situation. For me, I feel like living with chronic illness has made me a more compassionate, understanding person. Regardless of how healthy people look, they could be fighting fatigue, pain or any number of other problems. Sometimes I feel more patient with people but sometimes I feel like the pain zaps all my patience and leaves me angry and irritable. This is something I need to work on!

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    1. Thanks Trisha! Me too, you never know who you are passing on the street and what they might be going through. I'm the same though when my pain gets so high or I've not slept I can get very irritable, but it takes more for me to snap now than it did a year ago

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  3. Such a good post and so true! Patience is definitely one of the things I've become better at after all the practice over the years with ME. I try to see my illness as a 'blessing in disguise'. Sometimes the positives are extremely well disguised but I hope that -at least most of the time- they are there somewhere. Katharine xx http://katharineandme.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. It can be hard to find those blessings, but there is always one there somewhere even if it's small, being able to find them is the blessing sometimes!

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  4. I love this post, Have you ever read the secret? That is a positive thinking book which you might like if you haven't before.

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    1. A friend of mine swears by it but I've never read it myself, I keep meaning to though!

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  5. You have the attitude and that will take you further than anything else will. Good luck with your journey miss Eszti

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  6. That's a great attitude. I do believe in the power of positivity!

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  7. It's not everyday I stumble across someone (a blogger, in this case) whose diagnosed with an incurable illness and still keeps such a beautiful, positive attitude. I've read the Magic a long way back, and it's helped me be grateful for all the I have and eventually, everything bad will fade away if you keep a constant positive attitude and be grateful every single day. I just really admire your optimistic attitude on life. Of course, every now and then the devil inside us could get the better of us and spread negative thoughts, but we should learn to combat these thoughts and turn them to something optimistic.

    I think if you put your mind to it, and if you stay this positive, then you'll be able to kick your illness goodbye. :)

    Lubna | Elle Vox

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    1. Thank you Lubna, what a lovely comment, I agree! I've not read the Magic, I will have to look into it and give it a read. Thanks for being so sweet :) xx

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  8. It is so amazing that you can keep such an amazing attitude in such a sad situation, well done honey! You are right, what help does being sad do? Really lovely post!

    http://starsandspaceandstuff.blogspot.co.uk/

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  9. "Why waste energy focusing on anything else?" You are so right - worrying and feeling down is exhausting! I'm a bit of a worrier anyway and I've found mindfulness meditation really helpful. It is difficult to remember to be positive all the time but I hope that people read your post and take a moment to try and appreciate the positive things in their lives xx

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