It's not just a blog. It's a lifeline




For many bloggers their blog is mostly something they do for fun, a hobby if you like. However, for me it is so much more than that. It's a lifeline. 
Initially I started my blog to give me something to do in a boring bedbound crisis. Spending all day everyday stuck indoors unable to do much because of chronic illness soon becomes incredibly tedious and with little to take your mind off the fact your life has been swept away from under your feet, you have to find a way to escape that reality for your own good. Starting a blog seemed like an ideal setup because I could do it from my laptop, from my bed or sofa. I didn't know just how much of an important part of my life it would become back then.

Pre chronic illness, I was a very sociable person. I'd say I was very much a people person and I was always out and about doing things. Now that I am mostly housebound or bedbound I'm not getting the opportunity to socialise or meet new people. I've not made a new friend in 'real life' in several years, since the offset of M.E but I have however, made plenty of friends online thanks to blogging and social media. Some of these friends have been better friends than people I know in 'real life' and without you guys, I'm sure I would be feeling very lonely.

The Internet is a great way for me to stay in touch with the real world. With so many blog categories out there I can do much of what I would do in real life. I can window shop, people watch, attend a cooking class, see and visit places in the world (travel bloggers how I envy you) and most importantly of all interact and talk to people!

I'd like you to imagine yourself in the shoes of myself and many other people living with debilitating illnesses - your living your life, happily doing your thing when suddenly you get so sick that you can't even move, you think it will pass, but it doesn't, it is still there years on and during all of that time your life has dramatically changed and you've lost a lot of friends in the process. You can't work, you are rarely able to go out. Now think about how big an impact this would have on your emotional stability, It'd be pretty tough wouldn't it? People who get the flu for a week or two comment on how they are 'going out of their mind' That is why a 'virtual life' is better than no life at all, which is effectively what I would have if it wasn't for the Internet and all its wonders.

So thank you to all of the friends I've made online the past few years, thank you to everyone who reads my blog, comments and offers support. Unless you are in the same boat, you honestly have no idea how appreciated you are.

x Hayley-Eszti



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27 comments

  1. What a great post. I love reading how positive you are. My sister has suffered with M.E since she was about 14, so for 13 years now, and I can't really remember what she was like before she had it. She tends to be quite negative about it, so I love reading how positive you try and be!
    Keep in touch x
    http://my--socalledlife.blogspot.com.es/

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    1. Thanks Kate :) 13 years is a long time to be ill, it must be incredibly draining, I've been ill for a few years and it has already long outstayed it's welcome, it wasn't even welcome in the first place! I'm quite lucky that I'm naturally quite positive anyway so that has helped me keep that outlook in recent years. Thanks for your comment :) xx

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  2. You have the BEST attitude. I agree with you about blogging, it has really helped me up here. I so enjoy meeting people from every walk of life, from all around the world. It's a learning experience, it's a creative outlet, but most of all it is the friends you make. I would love for yo to do a guest post on my blog again. I think over 500 visitors had read the last one. I will go and check and let you know. Just let me know in May.

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    1. It is all of those things. I never would have been able to meet all the people I have done online without this platform, and I'm being inspired continuously and always learning things about different cultures and places. I love it! Wow 500 is great, I look forward to guest posting on DCL again very soon! :)

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  3. Fantastic post! I only stated up my blog last month but since then it has bought me a lot of joy. I love meeting others online, I feel social again. We are very lucky to be living with the internet and the great social media. Love you blog :) xoxoxoxo

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    1. I always think how difficult it must have been to live with a long term illness in the days before the internet, we are so lucky. Your blog is great you are doing a great job with it!

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  4. A lovely and inspiring post.

    I started my ME blog and my beauty blog for the same reasons, to make friends and a bit of a community, but I have to say I've found it a lot harder to build followers than I thought. A lot of people seem to comment too for a bit of self promotion!

    It is slowly building but it's hard to post regularly when you have PEM :(

    emmamecfs.blogspot.co.uk
    emmazingbeauty.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you Emma. It is hard to get followers I agree, especially when we aren't able to post as often. I normally work on one post over a period of time so I'm not overdoing it. I don't mind people commenting and leaving their blog links because it's necessary to put your blog out there. It takes time but if you enjoy what you are writing and blogging about it will show in your content :)

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  5. Lovely post girl!!!! :)) I love blogging so much and can definitely relate. I am still newer but I cannot imagine life without blogging now that I have started. I look forward each day to writing my posts as well as joining in on the community. I love reading others posts and commenting on them!

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    1. It's such a great community to be a part of isn't it! I love it when I get inspiration for a new post and getting my teeth into writing it out. I'm always discovering new blogs, I have too many to keep up to date with now but there's just so many amazing bloggers out there!

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  6. Thank you for this post, Hayley - it's brilliant! I completely agree with blogging being a lifeline - I only started my blog in November and have already found it to be such a brilliant source of support and encouragement. I don't know what I did without it! It's amazing to meet such lovely and inspirational people (like yourself!) and it means such a lot to know I'm not on my own in all of this. Social media might get some criticism in the press etc, but I think it's great - chronic illness would be so much harder to deal with without the internet and the online spoonie community! Sending love and hugs your way. Katharine xxx (and sorry if this is a repeat post - I don't think the other one went through!)
    http://katharineandme.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Definitely! Your blog is one of my favourites and I'm so glad you have found blogging to be such a positive experience too :)

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  7. Your positivity is always shining through, despite being ill. Although I don't blog myself, I read many and I too find it to be very useful in keeping the loneliness at bay.

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    1. Me too, social media in general (twitter & instagram) are god sends.

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  8. Hayley-Ezsti, the pleasure has been all mine. I couldn't agree more with you that this whole blog/internet thing is a lifeline to many. As you know it was great rehabilitation for me and I got a chance to meet you and other people from all over the world.
    You are a very inspiring young woman you know.

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    1. You make me blush Jim! We are lucky that through negative experiences, positive things have come out of it!

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  9. Yup... with you there. I can get out a little - just not enough. Blogging is a good outlet. I've ended up with three! This is my ME one. http://sallyjustme.blogspot.co.uk/ The other two are about sewing and dog agility. LOL.

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    1. Why not have three! It gives you something to and put some creative energy into :)

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  10. You are inspirational!

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  11. Great post <3
    http://carolinessecretblog.blogspot.com/

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  12. Your positive attitude is a credit to you. It must feel so good to know you have the internet and friends within it to get you through a hard time. x Natasha

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    1. Thank you so much, It really does, I don't know how I'd cope without it!

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  13. So glad I started blogging and talking to others with chronic illness online too- helps so much to feel like I have contact with people who truly understand what I'm going through, and I never feel alone when I'm stuck in bed :) It's good that we all have each other- ME is so difficult for non-sufferers to fully understand so sometimes it's just nice to know there are other people who know what it's like! X

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  14. The internet has been a godsend during my illness too. The people I've met online have become my preferred people to turn to on the bad days, they understand and don't judge. I'm glad you have found blogging to be so useful.

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  15. Lovely to have you as a friend, H-E! :-)

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