I had a conversation recently with a friend of mine and she asked me:
"What is your secret?"
My secret? I asked her to elaborate.
"You cope so well with having multiple health conditions, what's your secret?"
Well the truth is there is no secret - I've just learnt to embrace it.
Nobody ever thinks they will get ill. At least not at a young age anyway. When I was a child I was the same as every other child in that I dreamt of growing up and having my dream job (mine was to become an actress, which I half fulfilled before things went downhill) I dreamt of travelling the world, being free and just being a 'grown up' and doing normal things like food shopping and driving a car. You don't dream of getting sick and loosing out on the years of your prime. You never think you'll grow up not being able to do a food shop or drive a car or go to work.
That being said, I can't change what is. I can't change the here and now. All I can do is accept it and embrace it. Don't get me wrong I am not glad to be in this situation but I might as well make the most of what is, and deal with it in the best and most positive way I can.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that things don't always go to plan. Things aren't always as we'd like them to be in an ideal world. Things might not have turned out the way we dreamt they would when we were younger but we can choose to embrace the path we have landed on even if it is really rocky and it seems never ending. It's going to be a journey and good or bad there will always be things we can learn from and take away from that journey.
If you have an illness use it to educate, help and inspire others. Use it as a way to meet people who may become some of your closest friends. If you're unemployed use your free time to learn a new skill or volunteer somewhere. If you're feeling lost and unsure what you're doing with your life go out and meet people, leave your comfort zone and re-discover who you are. Whatever your story is - just embrace what is.