There comes a time in any relationship when the butterflies you experience when you see your other half disappear and real-life steps in. This is perfectly normal, of course, but if you are not careful, comfortable affection fades and you start living separate lives. The important thing is to maintain a sense of intimacy, as without intimacy your relationship will suffer.

For most couples, stress and overwork takes its toll on intimacy. When we are desperately tired after a long week at work, it’s not surprising that sex is the first thing that falls off the menu. Once sex dies, intimacy isn’t far behind. After all, if you are tired and not in the mood for sex, you instinctively draw away from your partner because you know that a hug may lead to a request for sex. Once you get into this pattern of behaviour, it’s a downward spiral. The good news is that you can bring back the spark, but it will require some effort.
Remember How Things Were?
Think back to when you two first met. Did you spend entire weekends in bed? If so, think back to how that felt and how much fun you had. Sure, life happened, but you can rediscover the passion if you try hard enough. The spark may have faded, but it’s still there, waiting to be rekindled.

Sexy Flirting

Start with a bit of sexy flirting. Try sending your partner a sexy text message when he’s at work or if you spend time apart because if your jobs, indulge in some phone sex. It’s an easy way to spice up your love life without actually getting physical, but if you are out of practice, get some experience using a service like Arousr.com. All this flirting will ramp up the tension nicely, so by the time you go to bed, you won’t need to expend a lot of effort to reach the finish line. It’s also fun to take sexy photos and use them to tease your partner. For example, you could go lingerie shopping and send a few photos from the changing room. Your partner will love it, but be careful not to send your sexy pics to the wrong person in your contact list, or it could get a bit awkward.

Sex Ban

It may sound counterintuitive, but declaring you are not going to have sex for a specified amount of time may just put you in the mood. You can touch each other, but no full on sex. Unsurprisingly, if we can’t have something, we generally want it so much more.

Just Do It

More often than not, if you go ahead and have sex, you will actually enjoy it. Overcoming the reluctance factor is the hard part, especially if you are tired and feeling out of sorts, so put your reluctance to one side and just do it. Your relationship will benefit enormously.
Don’t let the passion die in your relationship – follow the tips above and you can restore intimacy in no time!


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